How does one succeed in life?

Losing 20kg is a goal.

However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:

Living to your full potential is a goal.

Why do girls in Indian top colleges wear shorts?

Hangs out with loser friends.

The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.

Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.

Hello,hope y'all doin good, i came to Quora to share my strange story , a very weird one , a story when luck smiled at me ,maybe u will enjoy it , let's begin,have fun... A year ago ,I was a real porn addicted(btw I was 18) ,but never had sex before, I don't have a gf I didn't try to find one even ,always thinking to go to find a sex worker but then I just don't , everyday watching different bodies getting fucked and everyday enjoying. One day, I was watching porn, a big ass lady with big boobs ,just after seeing her the image of my female cousin poped in my mind, (let's introduce her : she's 35 years old , very big ass , nice boobs ,not very big but nice,always wearing tight clothes , she's divorced ) and I thought of me fucking her ,I never had sexual desires for her but now I do days went by and when I met her I was so horny ,I couldn't stay with the family cz my penis was clearly erected , I realized this is my first time I get horny for one of my family ,it not illegal in my country.well to make a long story short( if u want details just text me I will tell u 😊),I decided to give her signs that I want to fuck her,finally I decided to have sex and with my cousin , I thought it is the best beggining for me, i started touching her when I came across her in a narrow place , make her feel my hard cock when we hug , I thought it will hard and I will be ashamed but no , I felt nothing and she said nothing , probably she thought it was by mistake,anyways, I decided then to talk with her about sex, waited for her to be alone in a room and talk with her, I confessed everything about me watching porn and addicted..etc,she said it's normal and u are growing up and u must have sex,well at that time I was like whaaat????? Well I didn't control myself and asked her for sex ( horny like I Ve never been before) she said that she will think Abt it ,2 weeka went by then she called me ,telling that she reserved a room in a hotel and we meet tonight ,we met,and bruuhh, sex is great , I mean, I had to find a pirstitue ,what I was waiting for to have such a feeling ????, I will never forget that night, I started kissing her she was kissing hard ,she misses sex so bad , she sucked my dick and swallowed my semen ,I felt I'm in a dream , then when fucked ,her ass was very big and the anus was open ,didn't struggle to get my hard cock inside it , she was obviously missing sex , she was shouting ,fuck me yh fuck me , I go fast after every word until I cum , we did that 3 times , then we went to her pussy , using condoms I fucked her so hard the moans were higher , everything was perfect ,in the end I asked her to lick her body , licked pussy ,ass, boobs,then she sucked my cock until we sleeped ,all I know that she was dirty ,well before even having sex with her I knew she is an open minded woman , and a woman that looks that she donesnt know anything , but she knows everything, but never expected having sex with her ,well she was horny and that helped...but no one of us regretted that sex ever.. We still have sex from time to time ,and I started having sex with sex workers , joining threesomes..etc If u want pics of her text me.

Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.

Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.

Avoids sugar and is very fit.

Does the West have a defense against China's PL17 air-air missile?

Opens a business and makes WiFi money.

First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.

Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.

Are there any queer Space Marine Legion in Warhammer 30k or 40k?

Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.

Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.

Ask yourself:

Why do I want to give up on men?

An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):

Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).

How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?

What does it mean when a guy says he's afraid of falling for someone else after going through heartbreaks?

Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.

In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.

Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.

Why do siblings (or other close relatives) stop visiting each other as they grow older? Why does this happen with so many people nowadays?

Does not procrastinate.

Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.

Making more friends is a goal.

Am I the unique Gen Z if I dislike TikTok and prefer the 2000s technology trends like retro consoles, CRTs, and CD/DVDs?

Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.

Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.

“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.

Can men and women be friends?

Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).

I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?

If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.

If a narcissist can't feel remorse, can they ever feel regret for an evil act after going to rehab?

Procrastinates a lot.

The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.

Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.

Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.

Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.

Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.

Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.

Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.

Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.

How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?

What I need from you?

Saving $10,000 is a goal.

Do not set goals—set systems.

PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.

Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.

Big dreamer but only in his mind.

Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.

That's it for today.